Stop Divorce And Save Your Relationship

Published: 11th November 2011
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Divorce can be a heart breaking experience for both the people who go through it. If you want to stop a divorce from tearing up your marriage, there are a couple things to keep in mind. First off, you have to convince your husband or wife that they need to give the relationship another try. Not always the most easy thing to do, but still the absolute most necessary thing in order to stop a divorce from happening. The nice thing is that a divorce can be stopped at any time, before it's filed until right before the final paperwork. Don't give up, there is still hope.

So let me break it down for you. In order to stop a divorce from happening, you need to convince your spouce to give your relationship another chance. If you've been begging him to give you another try, pleading for another chance or acting in a weak way, stop now. It may seem counterintuitive, as if now that he has less resistance it will be easier for him to divorce you. But realistically, your pleading probably wasn't doing anything but convincing him that the divorce was a good idea anyway. Who wants to be around someone acting that way anyway? Would you?

Here's the key. If you can start acting more mature and behave in a more pleasant manner, it might surprise your spouse and help stop divorce proceedings. Use a calm voice and manner, and explain that you really don't want the divorce. Your spouse already knows this, so be aware that your screaming and carrying on won't help matters. Just make sure that you are clear that you're hurt and very sad and you really want another chance. You may be surprised how he or she reacts when you change your behavior.

Now is the time to really show your mature side and suggest marital or couples counseling. Your spouse will be pleased and more apt to listen as long as you stay calm and focus on healing your marriage. Counseling has worked for millions of couples and your relationship could benefit from it as well. If you can convince your spouce to agree to counseling, then you will have some precious time before he or she files for or attempts to finalize the divorce. You get the chance to convince them to give you and your relationship another chance.

During counseling you’ll have the opportunity to show your spouse why he or she fell in love with you in the first place. You can remind them why you’re together in the first place. And if you can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the problems that come up during the counseling—and many probably will—that might be enough to convince the your spouse not only to stop divorce temporarily, but permanently.

When you succeed and stop divorce from happening, you must remember that your spouse was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce later. Having already thought about divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one time makes the decision to file again easier. So be aware of the state of your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling. It’s easier to stop divorce from happening now than it is to let it go and face the consequences later.

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